sharing from our souls

I love this! Please share it with all of your girlfriends!

They Teach It at Stanford…

“I just finished taking an evening class at Stanford. The last lecture was on the mind-body connection – the relationship between stress and disease. The speaker (head of psychiatry at Stanford) said, among other things, that one of the best things that a man could do for his health is to be married to a woman;whereas for a woman, one of the best things she could do for her health was to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends.

At first everyone laughed, but he was serious.

Women connect with each other differently and provide support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult life experiences. Physically this quality “girlfriend time” helps us to create more serotonin – a neurotransmitter that helps combat depression and can create a general feeling of well-being. Women share feelings whereas men often form relationships around activities. They rarely sit down with a buddy and talk about how they feel about certain things or how their personal lives are going. Jobs? Yes. Sports? Yes. Cars? Yes. Fishing, hunting, golf? Yes. But their feelings? Rarely.

Women do it all of the time. We share from our souls with our sisters/mothers, and evidently that is very good for our health. He said that spending time with a friend is just as important to our general health as jogging or working out at a gym.

There’s a tendency to think that when we are ‘exercising’ we are doing something good for our bodies; but when we are hanging out with friends, we are wasting our time and should be more productively engaged – not true! In fact, he said that failure to create and maintain quality personal relationships with other humans is as dangerous to our physical health as smoking!

So every time you hang out with a gal pal, just pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself for doing something good for your health! We are indeed very, very blessed. Sooooo … let’s appreciate our friendship with our girlfriends. Evidently, it’s very good for our health!”

Share this with all of your girlfriends!

a friend

Stretching My Heart

Many years…many tears…many sleepless nights..but i’ve rediscovered the love that I was born with…for a long time i didn’t know my heart was good..that I was good enough…nothing to prove…no one to persuade…I now know I am good enough…I am good…I am enough…so many people I see and hear say they are not enough…it breaks my heart how we lose our self…our love…many kind, amazing people that have come into my life have shown me this…some have stayed…some have just been a brief encounter..the words I find when I open a book can break my heart open… no need to meet the author…her words are enough…sometimes I feel my heart stretching…what I thought was love was not even close…I am learning love has no limit…a rescue pup from Arkansas shows me every day that my heart grows and every day when  I wake to her happy face my heart stretches a little more…I have learned that love is an action…even sometimes a silent action.

 I actually wrote this blog back in May and saved it as a draft. Now coming back to it…it brings tears to my eyes…lately I have been struggling with getting back to this love…opening my self to the love and care that others have for me. IT has always been a challenge to find a way to open and trust love…today I am struggling with allowing love, receiving love..I talked to a friend in Cali the other day and she said everyone deserves to be loved and when she said it I could feel it and wish it for everyone I know but myself….it causes a great deal of sadness…I have to remind myself there are days I can open to love..I have opened to love…today it is just hard.

brainstorming….what makes me come alive

my rescue pup Gracie, my parents pup Molly, nature, connecting with friends, family, strangers, creating-photos, words, building…, sharing, helping, music, books, ideas, learning, growing, truth, laughing and more laughing, working for a purpose-rescue animals, stopping violence agains women, children…..equality and respect for all… in life, life in art, compassion, forgiveness, the ocean, the mountains, studying Buddhism, gardens, travel and so much more…..i’m listening more to my heart and to it’s truth….what makes my heart expand, what makes me come alive…saying yes to life, saying yes to love….


“Every morning when I wake up, I dedicate myself to helping others to find peace of mind. Then, when I meet people, I think of them as long term friends; I don’t regard others as strangers.”

Each friend represents a world in us, a world not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born- Anais Nin

Gratitude and Joy

A Meditation on Gratitude and Joy*

With gratitude I remember the many blessings in my life: the people, animals, plants, and insects — creatures of the sky and sea, air and water, fire and earth;

With gratitude I remember the Earth that holds and sustains all life;

With gratitude I remember the care and labor of the generations of elders and ancestors who came before me;

With gratitude I remember the teachings and lessons I have been given and that I have experienced in my life;

With gratitude I hold in my heart my family and friends, my local and global community;

With gratitude I accept my measure of health and well-being and the strength I experience of mind and body;

With gratitude I accept the gifts I have to give — my presence, my knowledge and wisdom, my talents and resources;

With gratitude I am thankful for the life I have been given.

*Adapted from Jack Kornfield’s Meditation on Gratitude and Joy in The Awakened Heart, pps. 399-400. Bantam Dell, May 2008.

Double trouble under the couch- Is the coast clear?

Is the coast clear?



Gracie & Molly